January 14, 2017 · 7:36 pm
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Friends of a friend are being victimised: what can you suggest

I have no idea what I’d do in such a situation. Have any of you faced something like this? How did you handle it?

It makes me feel sad, frustrated, powerless. And, I’m not even the victim.

I have no

~New Neighbours~ It all started over parking ! Funny, but what occurred between my neighbours is serious and ongoing. To set the scene, the building I live in is in two halves. One side is a 3 storey single property and my side is divided into three apartments. The two cats and I own the […]

via New Neighbours — Bluefish Way

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47 responses to “Friends of a friend are being victimised: what can you suggest”

  1. knittingwithheart
    February 22, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    Indeed, it was very sad to read about Ralph’s nasty NewN 😦
    But people sometimes need to take an honest look at themselve…
    So it was great news when Ralph replied to my comment, saying
    how the NewN wife had apologized with offerings for restitution!
    Hopefully now, peace will prevail! 🙂 💜 Jackie@KWH

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  2. ventisqueras
    February 13, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    non ho ( fortunatamente ) mai provato e quindi non ho idea di come ci si puo’ sentire in una simile situazioni, si potrebbero avere reazioni molto diverse, tutte quante sarebbero comunque tristissime
    😦
    un saluto caro Annalisa

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  3. M. L. Kappa
    February 11, 2017 at 6:15 pm

    Makes you want to go and live in a cabin in the woods, doesn’t it?😱

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  4. probableman
    January 31, 2017 at 5:17 am

    I had a situation with tenants, the surrounding neighbors, and an HOA. I had to mitigate between all of them. It was not fun. Just wrote about it in my blog…

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    • Yvonne
      January 31, 2017 at 6:51 am

      I just read about the situation on your blog, and the manner in which you handled it. Well done! I also read about the case of the strange tenant and the limes in the drain pipes. I don’t think I’d want to be a landlord. 🙂

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      • probableman
        January 31, 2017 at 7:05 am

        There is this misplaced fantasy about owning investment properties as a glamorous ordeal. Two days ago I was putting my hand down a toilet to attempt to unclog it, came out holding a plunger and smelling like a toilet, then hopped in my old work van that I use to carry tools and debris…..I can hire out but I am pretty handy so I just do it myself. Not glamorous….lol….although I clean up pretty good…at least that is what the ladies tell me….:P

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  5. Andrew
    January 25, 2017 at 12:21 am

    We used to live near the station where commuters took the train into London. One morning I went to get in my car and found a young woman parking over my driveway. I said that I wouldn’t be able to get my car out. She asked me where I worked. I said, ‘In town.’ (about two miles away). She said,’ Well you can walk then, can’t you!’ Nothing I could do as, by the time the police could have become involved, I would have been late for work.

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  6. doesitevenmatter3
    January 20, 2017 at 5:36 pm

    How awful! 😦 I hope they either move or become good neighbors/better people.
    It’s sad when you can’t feel safe or comfortable in your own place because you have bad neighbors. 😦
    Good neighbors are such a god-send and a joy.
    (((HUGS)))
    PS…Makes me think of the Robert Frost poem that includes the line: “Good fences make good neighbors.”

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    • Yvonne
      January 20, 2017 at 5:38 pm

      Every time I have moved, I didn’t give a thought to what my neighbours might be like. So far, I’ve been very lucky!

      How’s everything with you? ❤

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      • doesitevenmatter3
        January 20, 2017 at 5:43 pm

        I’ve only had a bad neighbor once in my life…so I’ve been very lucky, too! Right now I have great neighbors!

        I’m good! How are you doing?

        My oncologist appointment went well…they said “everything looks good”…but they always do a test, so I await the results. I’ll post when I find out the results!

        ❤ and (((HUGS)))

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  8. sheldonk2014
    January 19, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    I have had problems that I never encountered before in recent months
    It’s happening all over the place
    What was “pc” is no longer
    Finding peace and quiet
    Is starting to become a luxury
    As always Sheldon

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  9. auntyuta
    January 15, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    Ralph says in a comment: ” . . . I know that the NewN are miserable as they had to close their business and sold their home in another country for two thirds of its value. So I think their pent up anger is being released against this friendly young family. . . . ”
    It seems, they calmed now down somewhat. It is frustrating, when people lash out at innocent people because their built up anger gets the better of them. I hope they’ll turn around eventually and show a bit of kindness towards the people they so very wrongly abused. They had no reason to be nasty towards their neighbours!

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    • Yvonne
      January 15, 2017 at 8:17 pm

      I hope they have calmed down too, auntyuta. They did go through a bad time. We react in many different ways to the troubles and disappointments life puts in our paths. Some of us succumb to depression, others turn the rage to outside targets.

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  10. fauquetmichel
    January 15, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    This woman must be a little mentally ill. Had to endure
    Love ❤
    Michel

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  11. fauquetmichel
    January 15, 2017 at 3:15 pm

    This woman must be a little mentally ill. Hard to endure!
    Love ❤
    Michel

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  12. the eternal traveller
    January 15, 2017 at 7:23 am

    Some people are unbelievable. I hope the new neighbours move on soon and leave everyone in peace.

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  13. toutparmoi
    January 15, 2017 at 6:24 am

    Sounds like Mrs NewN has a mental health problem. The intervention of the police seems to have calmed things down, and once the builders finish their work things might calm down even more. (Her house finished, and her allies gone.) Here’s hoping! But the tyre-slashing is downright nasty.

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  14. hilarycustancegreen
    January 15, 2017 at 4:39 am

    This was a miserable story, I didn’t like the sound of it at all. I’ve left a comment on their site. For a couple of stressful years I acted as harassment officer at my workplace. Many bullies genuinely see themselves as victims, but they cause untold misery and I feel for the people concerned.

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  15. Ralph
    January 15, 2017 at 4:31 am

    Thanks for the reblog Yvonne. I love the comment about waiting for them to die. 🙂 ❤

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  16. Bruce Goodman
    January 15, 2017 at 3:49 am

    My parents had neighbours just like that! Solution: they waited for the neighbours to die – which they did eventually!

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  17. Sue Slaght
    January 15, 2017 at 12:41 am

    We have actually sold our house and moved from a terrible situation. In all fairness we were planning to move but the old neighbors who seemed to have a break with sanity, sped up the plans.

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  18. Sherry Felix
    January 14, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    If it is criminal activity report it. Violence, thefts etc.

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  19. derrickjknight
    January 14, 2017 at 9:58 pm

    I have no answer, but this resonates so well with me because a bullying (downstairs) neighbour like that dominated my entire childhood.

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  20. leggypeggy
    January 14, 2017 at 8:10 pm

    I saw this earlier today. I think the cops should sit outside and wait for the screaming to begin.

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